Discussion in 'Ham Radio Discussions' started by K3BEQ, Apr 13, 2019.
The 'better half' here is the moderator. Tensions may not be released at random.
It's all about balancing hobbies with home life and taking an interest in each others activities.
My wife is a Quilter ans while I cannot quilt, I've taken enough of an interest in her and her hobbies to be able to
understand what she's talking about and to offer suggestions when she ask my opinion on something quilting related.
Bingo! It's a RELATIONSHIP. Appreciating what each partner enjoys in life. My wife is a knitter / crocheter and I have no problem at all popping in to yarn shops on our travels so she can have an hour to browse yarn.... just as she will wander a ham fest with me.
A lot of that has to do the potential of nursing home care in America which is quite costly. Medicare in the U.S. does NOT cover the cost of being confined in a nursing home. In Canada, I believe your Universal Health Care system does cover nursing home confinement with NO financial obligations incurred by a married couple.
Most of the states will reduce a married couples' assets to a near poverty level before Medicaid kicks in to cover nursing home costs.
However; if Medicaid refuses to pay for any reason--the community (healthy) spouse is held personally liable for the costs incurred.
A couple in their late 90s appears before the divorce judge. Judge asks, "you've been married for over 70 years - why get divorced now?"
Couple answers, "We wanted to wait until all the kids were dead"
True....but there's more....
Sometimes there can be financial advantages to being single for senior citizens (!).
There's also the old story of the 90-somethings getting a divorce after 70+ years of marriage. "We had to wait until all the kids were dead."
In some cases....that's not really a joke.
The best advice I ever got was to make your wife your best friend.
Since she's my best friend, I have a desire to learn about her interest.
My philosophy is "happy wife, happy life." Seems to work. We've been married for about 35 years now.
If you're referring to 'common law' arrangements; that is an unmarried couple in a relationship that resides together in a domicile over an extended period of time. Most of the states do not recognize "common law marriage"-- thus there can be no claims to community property nor any division of assets accumulated during the course of the relationship.
If ham radio is affecting your marriage, it's only a symptom of something much larger needing attention. Obviously. Misogyny not included.