I admire what YOU have accomplished in spite of your disability. That's coming from one who has had a number of eye problems in the last few years but the good Lord has seen willing to give me a break. If you must keep the family in your ideals just take "Unk" aside and leave the rest. Make your offer one time and if he doesn't respond within reasonable time forget about it...then and anyway, concentrate on your wife's license program. "You can lead a horse to water...". Good luck. When (not if) you get your HF rig I would be proud to QSO with you! 73.