My wife and I are both newly licensed ham operators. My call sign is KD9NKJ, and her's is KD9NKK. We enjoy both working the radio together, except there is a complication that we can't seem to overcome. One that myself can overcome by just passing the general exam, which I'm trying, believe me. But my wife however may never overcome the prejudices of others it may seem. My wife is deaf. She has cochlear implants but they interfere with the transmission. She hasn't yet been able to even begin to keep her hearing aids on her head because they give her a migraine just trying to hear through all the static and interference. Not to mention that when she tries transmitting, her implants only shut off when she's keying the mic. Then they won't work for several minutes after that. It is a issue when we're trying to talk on HF mostly. You see I am but a Tech and she a General Class. Each time we try calling on HF say 80 meters, she has to turn down the radio's volume to zero, then transmit without having her cochlear devices attached to her head. We then turn up the volume on the radio and wait for a reply. In which I'll translate to her what's coming in from over the radio through whatever static. Ok, that's only part of the problem. The rest is that when she's sitting there right beside me, and I began to talk on the radio with her, problems begin. We get so much ridicule from other hams that it sometimes makes us both so angry we just give up. Like tonight, we were attempting to log into a net on 80 meters. She wasn't wanting to mess with having her cochlear devices on, nor was she wanting to take a chance at getting a headache. So since we were only wishing to ask a few technical questions concerning the RF issue we're having, I made the call for her using her call sign. Before going any farther, we both have the same elmer and he's been in ham radio for 30 years or more. He has told us repeatedly that there shouldn't be a issue for both of us to transmit on the HF bands using her call sign as long as she is in the room. We even had a discussion here about a week ago concerning this very issue. We had difficulty then trying to get several ham operators to be convinced that we were operating legally. Even after she did her best to tell them on the air that she was there, present in the room, and them acknowledging they heard her. This was on frquency 3.810.00. That bunch then insisted we were operating illegally and one of them even convinced the others that they were breaking the rules by conversing with us. He even told her over the radio, I translated of course. That she was violating FCC rules by allowing me to talk using her call sign every ten minutes. Well we came away from that conversation confused and upset nearly to where she became distraught from all their rude comments concerning her disability. Well we clarified the issue with our Elmer a few days ago, and he insisted we could talk together on the air, and I could use Lisa's call sign when signing in. Tonight though was about the same treatment as before. Not as rudely though, much worse so. Tonight we just were both ignored by "The Friendly Bunch", on 3.919.00. I attempted to log into the net using her call sign. Again the issue of why Lisa wasn't speaking. I attempted to explain it to them, and she even tried logging in herself. One operator was rude enough to ask, "If she's deaf and can't hear us, how was she ever able to pass the test anyhow, unbelievable?" Then commented that we were being illegal by using someone else's call sign. So much for the friendly way both nets had for showing they were trying to advance the art of amateur radio. It's like some people have to feel as though they need to be doing the enforcement of clearing the radio waves by not only making wrongful accusations, but insulting other operators along the way.